My 20 yo friend is wasting her life. What to do?

WOW! what Fabulous friends you are. You should be so proud or yourself. She sounds a bit insecure to me. She may feel she doesn't look good in dresses or nice clothes compared to the rest of you. Maybe if you sit down and have a chat with her one to one instead of a group she may talk. She may feel she,s not worth it so why should anyone else think she is. It's important to listen to her. ask her is there something she would really like to do in life. Maybe together write the top ten things you would like to do. It could be a way of finding things out about her. But listening is really important. Whatever happens be proud of yourself knowing that you did your best for her. Tell her you will always be there for her whenever she's ready. x